• Woman in bed

Is sleep ruining your love life?

What goes on in the bedroom plays a big role in the success or otherwise of your relationship—but not in the way you might think.

When filmmaker Eline van der Velden took to the streets of London to uncover the truth about sleeping habits and their impact on relationships, she discovered the various ways in which bedroom behaviour can strengthen or damage a relationship.

Conflicting sleeping patterns are one of the things that can drive a wedge. If you're an early bird, up at the break of dawn, you're likely to get frustrated by someone who overuses the snooze button. Conversely, the night owl isn't going to relish the prospect of a life spent with someone who likes to get a bit of shut eye before the nine o'clock news has finished its final bongs. So if you're one half of a couple whose unique body clock closely matches that of the other in your life, you're already onto a winner.

Unless, that is, either you or your partner goes in for a bit of sleepwalking. Pity the poor boyfriend of the woman who reorganises her bedroom cupboards while she's asleep!

But perhaps most debilitating of all is insomnia—one of the most common sleep problems in the UK. One of the guys featured in the video admits that to aid his chances of a decent night sleep, he has to wear an eye cover and ear plugs, hang black out blinds, and keep a white noise app on loop on his bedside table—along with enough water and snacks to see him through the wee hours. 

If conflicting nighttime behaviours are such a potential problem, perhaps one of the questions we should be asking on a first date is: "How do you sleep at night?!"


Author: Rebecca

Rebecca lives in London with her husband, daughter and dachshund. She hopes her dating blogs for Flame Introductions will inspire you to seek out the best London and UK locations for brilliant dates, and discover some tips along the way to help you find your perfect partner.