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The older generation make the canniest daters...

Love at first sight. Ah, that old cliché, you’re probably thinking. Even if you’ve experienced it for yourself, you might have convinced yourself that it was just a fleeting moment of chemical madness, or something that belongs in the past, the preserve of your more youthful self.

Well as it turns out, there’s every chance that love at first sight—whether or not you believe in its possibility—is the story of your future, rather than your past.

Researchers have found that the older you get, the more attuned you are to what you’re looking for in a significant other. And, as a result, you’re much more likely to experience that thunderclap-lightening bolt moment the very first time you lay eyes on that special someone.

In fact, as many as one in four people over the age of 65 say that they ‘knew’ within seconds of meeting their partner that it was meant to be. The same could be said of only 19% of 45-year-olds.

It’s thought that the reason for this instant spark is that older people are more likely to have clarity about what they want out of life and a partner to share it with, and are therefore much more likely to spot it when they see it. Over three quarters (77%) of people in later years say they have a clear life plan, compared with just over half of forty-somethings. “Older generations of singletons are much more likely to know where they want to go, what they want to do and what they hope to achieve by meeting someone new,” reads the study.

Surprisingly, this single-minded focus when it comes to dating means that older generations are much more likely to call time on a date that isn’t going well. Singletons in their sixties are in fact much more likely to end a date within minutes of it starting if they don’t immediately fancy the person they’re seeing. It seems they’re far less nervous about the date as a whole, and are therefore less likely to feel bad about saying sayonara to a potential partner.

A boring talker, or someone who appears nervous and awkward is likely to end in the date being wrapped up in under 43 minutes. To last any longer, the older dater has quite the wishlist of demands...


  1. The conversation is free flowing and easy
  2. Your date appears very relaxed
  3. Your date isn’t too pushy or presumptuous
  4. You are made to laugh quickly
  5. You date is courteous and chivalrous
  6. You can imagine having lots of fun with them
  7. You immediately feel sexually attracted to them
  8. They have the potential to be a long term love interest
  9. They don’t bring up any ex-partners
  10. You discover you share similar interests


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Author: Rebecca

Rebecca lives in London with her husband, daughter and dachshund. She hopes her dating blogs for Flame Introductions will inspire you to seek out the best London and UK locations for brilliant dates, and discover some tips along the way to help you find your perfect partner.