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The Flame guide to dating over Christmas

It's a magical time to have just met someone you really like. Cosy dinner dates holed up in log fire pubs, with the occasional foray onto an ice rink or a hand-in-hand stroll through a frosty park. 

But the other side of the Christmas coin is all the politics that comes with the festive period. Clashing social lives might mean you get to see less of each other, and then there's the question of whether or not to exchange gifts.


If your December evenings and weekends are already starting to fill with friends and all the other 'stuff' that goes hand in hand with the build up to Christmas, sit down together and get some dates scheduled in. How many will depend on how serious things are or how long you've been seeing each other, but aim to arrange a couple of Christmas themed dates, whether it's going to see a show, or enjoying a Christmas drink together somewhere. 


It's important you both continue seeing your friends and relatives throughout the festive period, and things may come up at the last minute, so don't be too alarmed if your date has to cancel on you at short notice, or struggles to return texts or calls with the usual response times. Keep sharing your plans with one another, so that paranoia doesn't start to keep in and you wonder if those last minute work Christmas drinks is actually time spent with a love rival. 


If you're both travelling away for Christmas, know that January really is only a week away, and then normal life – and dating – resumes. Don't despair and feel pressured to rush into something ahead of schedule, introducing one another to friends or family simply because "it's Christmas" rather than because you're ready to. Even if you are ready to start welcoming your new mate into your social circle or family life, Christmas, with all its weighty expectations and family dramas, may not be the best time to do it. Also friends might not appreciate you bringing a new face along to your Christmas reunion only to spend the whole time in the corner canoodling with your new lover. 


If it's still early days, keep gifts sweet and simple. It's best not to ask the other person what they'd like – it's unlikely they'll feel comfortable telling you. If you're unsure of how to handle the gift situation, talk to them. It might feel uncomfortable but they'll probably be glad you brought it up. Set a budget you'll both stick to, or even agree a present 'theme'. A thoughtful book with a message, or something handmade like a mix tape is bound to be a winner. Or if you want to spend a bit more, you could think about an experiential gift – something that the two of you can do together in the new year. That's your next date sorted too, and sends a clear message that you want to spend time together, and that that's the best gift of all.

Merry Christmas from Flame Introductions.


Author: Rebecca

Rebecca lives in London with her husband, daughter and dachshund. She hopes her dating blogs for Flame Introductions will inspire you to seek out the best London and UK locations for brilliant dates, and discover some tips along the way to help you find your perfect partner.