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Blue sky thinking date ideas – by the couples who swear by them

In those early, heady days of dating, planning what to do with your significant-other-in-the-making can be a source of excitement, creativity, bewilderment or sheer panic, depending on your point of view.

The Flame Introductions blog is packed full of advice and ideas for great dates in London, ranging from cosy get-togethers in laid back coffee shops and romantic country-style pubs, peaceful walks in secret gardens and adrenaline-fuelled adventures featuring unforgettable city skylines. We even have a guide to recreating the romantic encounters from your favourite London-based movies.

But with Flamers around the UK signing up for our services, we know that inspiring date venues aren’t the solve preserve of our capital. Which is why we’ve scoured a mammoth Reddit forum on the topic of wonderful first date ideas – featuring silly string, mystery driving tours and pyjama movie days - to bring you some of the best suggestions from the couples who know how to have a great time together, wherever in the world they happen to meet. Here are some of our favourites.

“My husband of 25 years and I like to "Flip the Town". We flip a coin to make decisions on whether we head right or left, head into a pub or bar, or bookstore or eat dinner at a certain place, taking turns flipping and picking the thing to be flipped on. It is a fun way to let spontaneous decisions rule the date. Some really great memories have come from this game.” By jammamamma. 

“We have devised a pact that for 2-3 hours on weekends, we take it in turns to do whatever activity the other one decides. No prejudice, no hesitation, no complaints and no "revenge activities" if you didn't like last weekend. Among other rules we agreed are not to play on any of the phobias either one might have. That ain't funny at all. Other than that anything goes. Needless to say we've had our fair share of memorable dates. Spelunking, shopping, carting, drifting, wood carving, orienteering, voluntary work at the animal shelter, manicures, knitting, dancing lessons, karaoke, playing video games, surprise get-togethers with long lost friends. Highly recommended practice!” By notavailableanymore.

“I once got woken up in the early hours of the morning and was told to keep my pjs on. We went to his house and made waffles with the works and just had a relaxing day of movies and hanging out.” By tsumukikatu.

“I went stargazing recently with my significant other. Make sure you go somewhere away from city lights. And bring a bean bag and blankets to keep warm and comfortable.” By isp_of_doom.

“This is going to sound really boring, but jigsaw puzzles. Nothing too crazy 500 pieces sounds OK. You have plenty of time to talk.” By straydog1980.

“Write 30, 60, and 90 on three separate pieces of paper and put them in a hat. Then in a separate hat have ‘north’, ‘south’, ‘east’ and ‘west’. Let her draw from each hat. Then drive, 30-90 minutes in a random direction and do whatever activities you find at said location.” By AckbarTrapExpert.

“When Valentines Day came around we went on a picnic and it was wonderful. To my surprise she had brought along two cans of silly string. There was an epic battle fought that day. One of the most fun things I have done. I totally recommend a silly string fight to any couple.” By ScroogeJones.

“My girlfriend made a mini golf course in her backyard. Nothing fancy, just some solo cups and some flags she made out of dowels and paper. It honestly was one of the best dates we've had. The best dates are the cheap/free ones. They require creativity and that means the most in a relationship.” By mmzold.


Author: Rebecca

Rebecca lives in London with her husband, daughter and dachshund. She hopes her dating blogs for Flame Introductions will inspire you to seek out the best London and UK locations for brilliant dates, and discover some tips along the way to help you find your perfect partner.