• Heartbreak

This is how long it takes to get over an ex—and what you should eat while you're in heartbreak mode...

The average adult spends 18 months of their life healing from the breakup of their combined serious relationships.

At three major relationships per individual, that means that six months is the average length of time needed to get over an ex. 

In the immediate aftermath of the bust-up, most adults spend about four days seriously wallowing. That means at least two tearful conversations with the ex in question, four solitary sobbing sessions, two nights out with friends of the same sex, and a big fat helping of comfort food, with ice cream, pizza, cake and fry-ups topping the favourites list. One in four adults also say that in their desperation for comfort they also reach out to former flames and exes. But chocolate is a much better healer for most, scoring nearly 7 out of 10 on the happiness-providing scale.

High levels of comfort food are most needed in the first five weeks following a break-up—with key signs of recovery kicking in after then. After an average of one month and 12 days, the tears over a break-up will have stopped, and four more days after that is the average length it takes to muster up the courage to delete the ex’s number. Seven and a half weeks are needed to remove pictures of an old flame, while it takes a full two months before we’re able to stop bringing up an ex in conversation.

And now for the killer question: how long do we wait before we get back in the dating game? For the average adult, it’s three months and eleven days.


  1. Spending time alone
  2. Watching films and TV
  3. Spending time with friends
  4. Spending time with family
  5. Treating yourself with food


  • Stop looking at an ex’s social media regularly – 5 weeks 
  • Stop crying about the break-up – 6 weeks 
  •  Delete the ex’s number – 6.5 weeks 
  •  Get rid of all their stuff from your place – 7 weeks
  • Delete or remove pictures of the ex – 7.5 weeks 
  •  Stop talking about them/ bringing them up in conversation – 8 weeks 
  •  Start dating someone else properly – 13.5 weeks


  1. Ice cream 
  2. Pizza 
  3. Fried food 
  4. Cake/cupcake 
  5. Burgers 
  6. Chocolate-chip cookies 
  7. French fries 
  8. M&M's 
  9. Mexican 
  10. Cheesecake


Author: Rebecca

Rebecca lives in London with her husband, daughter and dachshund. She hopes her dating blogs for Flame Introductions will inspire you to seek out the best London and UK locations for brilliant dates, and discover some tips along the way to help you find your perfect partner.