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The calming technique that could help reduce your first-date anxiety

There are two types of people in the world: people who get nervous before first dates. And liars.

While a little bit of nerves is a good sign that you’re committed to have a good time and being great company, severe anxiety can stop you relaxing, enjoying the time and putting your best self forward.

ITV This Morning’s resident doctor Zoe has a great technique, which, incidentally, is used by the Navy SEALs when faced with anxiety-filled situations.

It works by asking you to close your eyes, put your left hand on your tummy, and imagining a square in your mind’s eye. Now take your right hand and trace the bottom of the square for four counts as your inhale. Then four counts up the side as you exhale. Then draw the top of the box for four counts as you inhale, before closing the box down the other side with another exhale. Repeat twice. The combination of the slow, steady breathing, with having to count and use your hands has a claming effect for the mind which viewers claimed really works.

“Wow. I normally balk at breathing exercises, but this one's pretty cool! Good thinking here!” said one.

So if you want to quiet those butterflies in your tummy, it could be worth a shot. 


Author: Rebecca

Rebecca lives in London with her husband, daughter and dachshund. She hopes her dating blogs for Flame Introductions will inspire you to seek out the best London and UK locations for brilliant dates, and discover some tips along the way to help you find your perfect partner.