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Courage: Quotes to inspire the brave in their quest for love

Since Flame Introductions appeared on the recent series of Channel 4's The Undateables, we've been inundated with calls from singletons inspired by the undisputed bravery of the shows contributors - individuals who've had to overcome enormous life changes and the toughest of circumstances, but are still optimistic that they'll find that special someone to share the rest of their days with. 

We know that picking up that phone and calling a personal introductions agency requires enormous amounts of courage - but we're here to ensure the process is as easy and enjoyable for you as possible. If you're still in two minds about whether you're brave enough to put yourself out there, we've compiled some of our favourite inspirational quotes. We hope they'll give you that final push you need to get in touch and let us set you on the path to finding your dream match. And if you'd rather we did the telephoning, you can always request a call back at a time and place that suits you. 


"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition."

The Apple co-founder's words remind us that we must remain true to ourselves and our personal values, striving always to drown out the noise and pressures imposed on us by others.


- TV presenter and entrepreneur, Oprah Winfrey


"Courage is being scared to death... but saddling up anyway."

Fear is often spoken about as something we must 'overcome'; that we must strive to stop fearing that which we most dread. But true courage, as the actor John Wayne neatly summarises above, is feeling the fear, and charging ahead regardless. 

Opening yourself up to the possibility of a first date, let alone finding love, can be incredibly daunting, particularly if you've been hurt in the past, suffered a rejection or haven't dated in a long time. Rather than chastise yourself for feeling afraid or try to eliminate your fear, recognise how you're feeling, acknowledge that to experience nerves or anxiety is normal, then summon up a big dose of courage and follow your dream.


- Eat, Pray, Love author Elizabeth Gilbert.


"What would life be if we had no courage to attempt anything?"

Think back on the things you've achieved in your life; on the many successes you've had. Chances are, many were a result of you stepping outside your comfort zone, taking a chance or venturing into the unknown. 

You might have felt nervous or uncertain at the time, but in taking that leap you built resilience to your fear, felt a huge sense of accomplishment, and found it easier to follow a similar path next time around. If the prospect of a first date daunts you, focus on the potential outcome. 

That doesn't have to mean finding true and everlasting love in a coffee shop; think smaller milestones like getting to know someone better, sharing something of yourself, or simply feeling the sense of achievement that comes from doing what frightens you.



Author: Rebecca

Rebecca lives in London with her husband, daughter and dachshund. She hopes her dating blogs for Flame Introductions will inspire you to seek out the best London and UK locations for brilliant dates, and discover some tips along the way to help you find your perfect partner.