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Is there a moment when you just know someone's 'The One'?

For some long term loves, the realisation that this is the person you want to spend a lifetime with is one that grows, gradually over time. For others, there's the proverbial thunderclap—the lightning bolt moment when Cupid's arrows permeates with precision and you simply know...


1. SOMETIMES IT'S A FEELING DEEP IN THE GUT...

When I took stock of my life and realized her not being a part of it made it a whole lot less appealing. We complement each others’ personality, we don't blindly agree with the other one, and we make each other want to be the best versions of ourselves. If that's not a reason to marry someone then I don't know what is.”

Reddit user Brian 1231


2. ONCE YOU'VE KISSED (OR LAUGHED AT) AT LEAST ONE FROG!

“One day while mowing the grass he came into the house looking very distraught and tortured. This is very unusual for him because he's pretty stoic and I think I've only seen him cry twice in 9 years. I asked what was wrong and he burst out with, "I accidentally ran over a frog that was trying to hop out the way of the lawnmower!!" He was honestly really upset at himself for it and then muttered something like, "Poor frog, just going about its day, completely unaware" and walked back outside all sad-like. I don't think it's funny that the poor frog got ran over but I did have to try not to laugh in that instance for some reason. I knew then that I wanted to marry him."

Reddit user daisypushers


3. SOMETIMES IT REQUIRES MORE THAN JUST A BIT OF DUTCH COURAGE...

"About a month or so into our dating relationship, I went out one random work night with a bunch of friends to grab drinks. After about 20 shots of whiskey, I jumped into a cab and ended up going to her apartment at around 5:00 in the morning. She buzzed me in, put me to bed, then left for work just 3 hours later. When I woke up, I obviously had no recollection of the previous night’s activities, and I had no idea how or why I ended up at my girlfriend's apartment. But when I sat up from her bed, I noticed a tall glass of water on the night stand along with two aspirins. There was also a trash bin with kleenex tissues in case I needed to throw up. The funny thing is, my girlfriend was not (and still is not) much of a drinker at all, and none of her friends are big time drinkers either. Since this was her first ever experience dealing with a black-out-drunk experience, she didn't know how to handle the situation, so she googled "how to treat a hangover" and followed the internet's advice. The fact that she went out of her way to find out how to make me feel as little pain as possible was truly a sign that she was the one. And if that wasn't enough, she also wrote an email on my behalf to my boss explaining how "sick" I was from a cold that I caught and further explained that I would not be making it into the office."


Reddit user orange_cuse


4. IT'S IN THAT MOMENT WHEN YOU JUST RELAX...

"The first time I met him, I thought, "I want this person in my life." Even if it was just as a friend. It wasn't instant love, it was instant relaxation. My soul, everything inside me, relaxed in his presence. I'd never felt that sensation around anyone before. It sounds stupid, but our vibes just matched so well, and it didn't take long to realize that he had a good heart, made me laugh, was intelligent, mature, supportive, and an all-around great human being. Our four year anniversary is coming up and I'm still insanely happy in this relationship."

Reddit user aviary83


5. AND SOMETIMES YOU BOTH HAVE YOUR REASONS... THEY'RE JUST NOT THE SAME ONES!

"I asked my SO this once. His response: 'Second date. I just knew you were the one for me the moment I picked you up that day. And then drinking beer and hanging out with you on the patio... I just loved hanging out with you from then on. You?' Me: 'That time you cleaned my fridge.'"

Reddit user PoopsieDoodles


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Author: Rebecca

Rebecca lives in London with her husband, daughter and dachshund. She hopes her dating blogs for Flame Introductions will inspire you to seek out the best London and UK locations for brilliant dates, and discover some tips along the way to help you find your perfect partner.