It's good to talk, or so the old adage goes. But so much conversation in contemporary life is squeezed into instant messages, pithy Tweets or abbreviated texts.
The best conversations of your life probably happened by chance, but how often these days do you consciously create the right time, space and tone for more great dialogue to unfold? If you've been dating a little while, it's easy for one-to-one time to slip into a rotation of dinner and Netflix interspersed with mundane chat about your day. The evenings where you could spend hours on the phone segueing from favourite novels to childhood memories to dream vacations and honesty around insecurities suddenly seem like they happened between two strangers in another time zone.
Like all aspects of relationships, good conversations require both parties' efforts. But that's not to say you can't reach out for a little help. The School Of Life offers a lovely dose of inspiration in the form of packs of conversation-starting cards. The 'Love' edition is an obvious first start for couples. Questions include:
it a sign of cynicism or wisdom to tolerate affairs?
was your family’s attitude to showing you affection? How do you think this
affects you now?
I like someone, I tend to… (Describe your behaviour).
of your flaws would you like to be treated generously?
a long pursuit you realise someone is as keen on you as you are on them.
What feelings does this bring up for you?
did you last feel very emotionally connected with your partner?
There's a pillow talk edition to help you explore more intimate aspects of relationships, as well as work and family categories that open the conversation out further.
If you don't want to spend the money though, the Internet is awash with question ideas, discovered via Google searches like 'conversation starters' and 'date night questions'. Why not challenge one another to create your own homemade card packs and see where the conversation leads...