• Goldie Hawn and Kurt Douglas

The Great lovers series: Goldie Hawn & Kurt Russell

Their names have been used in the same sentence for over three decades - an almost unheard of feat in Hollywood terms. But what is it that keeps the love of actors Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell burning so brightly?


THE RELATIONSHIP HASN'T BEEN WITHOUT SCANDAL

In fact, their very first date had a touch of the dramatic about it. Goldie initiated that first encounter, suggesting that they go somewhere they could dance to the kind of swing music that would be in the movie they were starring in. They went to the Playboy Club and after hours of dancing, agreed the night wasn’t yet over.

But as they arrived at Goldie’s recently acquired new home, they realised that the actress had come out without her keys, and so they were forced to break in. Not long after, their first clinch was interrupted by the boys in blue. But the besotted couple didn’t let a little police camera action get in the way of their tryst – they simple went and spent the night at a hotel!

"It was a lot of fun, I’ll tell you what," remembers Kurt. "I can’t believe it was a long time ago!"


THEY BLEND ROMANCE WITH REALISM

Goldie and Kurt had their first date on Valentine's Day 1983 - a fact they celebrate each year on 14th February with a romantic dinner.

If work commitments mean they can't be together on this occasion, they each celebrate individually - in 2015, while Kurt was busy on set, Goldie appeared on The Jonathan Ross Show and raised a glass of champagne to the studio audience in the name of love.


THEY FIGURED OUT WHAT WORKS FOR THEM

They're not anti marriage, but this pair realised some time ago that marriage wasn't for them. 

“I would have been long divorced if I got married,” Goldie has previously stated. “We like the choice and we chose to stay. We're always asked why we are not married. Why? What is marriage going to do for us? Our children said years ago they don't want us to get married. But all our children wanted to marry.

“Not every relationship works, that is the truth, whether you are a movie star or not. In fact, it can be harder for movie stars as the camera is always on them. If you need to be bound to someone, then it’s important to be married. If you are independent, then it’s important to not be married.”


THEY USE THE 68% RULE

Getting the balance right between spending just the right amount of quality time together and giving each other enough space – it’s a juggling act many couples struggle to perfect.

For the Hawn-Russell partnership, a 68% togetherness rate is the magic number. “At the beginning, you want to see each other all the time,” Goldie has said. “Then you get jealous when they’re gone too long and that’s exciting. But for a healthy long-term relationship, then 68% of the time is good.”


THEY'RE COMPLETELY CANDID ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS REQUIRING EFFORT AND COMMITMENT

We've heard countless Hollywood golden couples wax lyrical about their romances, only to cite irreconcilable differences within a matter of months. Not so this pairing. In an interview with People magazine, Goldie acknowledges that longterm relationships need more than just the occasional date night to keep them alive. "Every relationship has its trials when it comes to that because you’re in the prime of your life, you are attracted to other people, potentially, you have fantasies about that. It’s not that we don’t have these hurdles, it’s how we deal with them.”

“Love, gratitude, compassion — because sometimes every man or every woman will drive their partner crazy. Family, fun, laughs, sex — and if you don’t nurture that and remember, you’re done.”



Image: Twitter.com/goldiehawn 


author-gravatar

Author: Rebecca

Rebecca lives in London with her husband, daughter and dachshund. She hopes her dating blogs for Flame Introductions will inspire you to seek out the best London and UK locations for brilliant dates, and discover some tips along the way to help you find your perfect partner.